Overcoming Emotional Eating: 3 Common Mistakes People Make

Emotional eating is essentially eating food in response to emotional triggers rather than your physiological hunger cues. It can involve eating to numb or suppress uncomfortable feelings or seeking comfort through food. It often occurs impulsively and can lead to overeating or binge eating. Navigating this eating behaviour can be tricky, and many fall into common traps when trying to overcome it.

The three common mistakes people make:

1. Thinking Emotional Eating Is Always a Bad Thing

Emotional eating is a behaviour that’s deeply ingrained in human nature and contrary to popular belief, isn’t inherently negative. During celebrations we might eat delicious cake when we’re not hungry. Perhaps because it’s a happy event, to be sociable and connect with others.

However, it's important to recognise when emotional eating becomes problematic. This happens when these eating patterns become your primary coping mechanism or lead to feelings of guilt and shame. Instead of berating yourself for turning to food for comfort, it's important to embrace self-compassion. By understanding that seeking comfort through food is a natural human instinct, you can shift away from negative self-judgment that keeps you stuck in the never-ending cycle of guilt and shame.

2. Falling into All-or-Nothing Thinking

"All or nothing" thinking is a cognitive distortion that can exacerbate emotional eating patterns. This mindset categorises behaviours as either entirely good or entirely bad, leaving no room for flexibility. For instance, you might think, I've already eaten something I shouldn’t have, so I might as well just continue

Breaking free from this loop involves challenging the black-and-white thinking and adopting a more balanced approach to eating and self-care. Your relationship with food is a life long journey but one that gets easier as you collect the required tools and strategies along the way.

Rather than viewing food choices as moral judgments, it's critical to work on self-awareness and mindfulness around your eating habits. This includes recognising triggers for emotional eating events and developing alternative coping strategies.

3. Turning to Dieting as a Solution

For many people, the instinctual response to an emotional eating episode is to start a new diet. However, this approach often backfires, exacerbating the very issues it aims to solve. Dieting commonly fuels feelings of deprivation, leading to intensified cravings and an unhealthy preoccupation with food.

Rather than viewing dieting as a solution to emotional eating, think about what might have led to the eating behaviour. Were you sad, lonely, angry, premenstrual, tired or sleep deprived? Did you experience a body image situation, have a disagreement, or notice a recurring source of distress? Become curious without offering up self-judgement and you may be amazed at the transformative power it holds.

If the idea of tackling your eating patterns feels overwhelming and you're unsure of where to begin, take a look at my FREE guide Breaking the Cycle - Your First Steps to Healing Your Relationship with Food to kickstart your journey today

This invaluable resource will help you:

✔️Know when you’re really hungry and when you’re not

✔️Learn when to eat that’s best for you

✔️Know the best snacks to help you stop craving and feeling out of control

Sleep Your Way to Better Eating: The Surprising Connection You Need to Know

Your eating habits play a significantly role in how well you sleep, but did you know that your sleep patterns can have quite an influence on your eating behaviour?

While much attention is typically placed on the food itself when it comes eating challenges such as emotional and binge eating, there are many other factors to consider and sleep should not be overlooked.

THE HORMONE CONNECTION

Lack of adequate sleep can lead to physical consequences such as hormonal imbalances, which may increase your hunger and trigger cravings for the less helpful foods. Acknowledging that insufficient sleep can exacerbate these cravings as a physiological response, rather than a personal failing, can foster self-compassion. Why is this beneficial? Instead of trying to offset binge eating episodes by restricting your food later, it encourages a shift towards self-care rather than sabotage. A focus on improving sleep won’t just help with eating challenges; It will also bring about significant health benefits across the board.

MEAL TIMINGS

What and when you eat can impact your sleep; insufficient daytime eating followed by overeating in the evening, especially close to bedtime, can disrupt your sleep. Malnourishment can elevate your stress levels and adversely affect sleep. Ensuring you eat enough and stabilising your blood glucose with sufficient protein, fibre, natural fats and slow-releasing carbohydrates can make a difference. Consider the balance of your meals rather than striving for perfection (which doesn’t exist – by the way). Of course, a good night’s sleep will make it easier to eat in a balanced way the next day.

PSYCHOLOGICAL IMPACT

Poor sleep quality also has psychological ramifications, affecting the higher brain functions responsible for self-control, decision-making, and rational thinking. Adequate sleep is necessary to restore these cognitive processes, allowing for more constructive decision-making. Conversely, chronic stress driven by negative thoughts about food, dieting or your body is also likely to disrupt your slumber. This can keep you stuck in a perpetual cycle of negative thinking, poor sleep and unwanted eating behaviours.

Furthermore a reminder that alcohol consumption, which you may turn to in times of stress, can disrupt your REM sleep, impacting overall sleep quality. It’s also worth reflecting on your individual sensitivity to caffeine, which varies from person to person, and may be playing a part in night time wakefulness.

Six Tips for a Good Night’s Sleep:

Focus on one small adjustment at a time and remember that consistency is key!

1. Experiment with Eating Earlier: Consider experimenting with eating earlier a few days a week. This is about understanding your body and finding what works best for you. If needed, have a nutritious snack before bedtime to avoid going to bed hungry.

2. Eat Enough: Ensure you are getting enough food throughout the day to help stabilise your blood glucose and to help prevent disturbed sleep.

3. Embrace Outdoor Time and Daily Movement: Spend time outdoors when you can and take some gentle exercise every day. A brisk walk ticks both boxes.

4. Set Up a Sleep-Friendly Environment: Dim the lights and limit electronic device use before bedtime. This will reduce your exposure to sleep-blocking blue light and minimise nighttime stimulation. Ensure your bedroom is dark and kept at a comfortable temperature for optimal sleep conditions.

5. Keep to a Consistent Sleep Routine: Avoid napping during the day and go to bed at the same time every night. This can positively impact your body's ability to reset your circadian rhythm, promoting better sleep.

6. Minimise Alcohol and Caffeine Intake: Avoid using alcohol to help you sleep. Alcohol is a stimulant and can mess with your sleep. Similarly, limit caffeine consumption and avoid drinking it later in the day.

As you work on your eating challenges, remember that fixing your relationship with food involves a multifaceted approach. By addressing the physical, emotional and psychological aspects, you can gradually build a lifestyle that supports you on this journey.

 Do you long for a happy relationship with food, but are feeling lost on where to begin? Grab my FREE guide Breaking the Cycle - Your First Steps to Healing Your Relationship with Food, to kickstart your journey today

This invaluable resource will help you:

✔️Know when you’re really hungry and when you’re not

✔️Learn when to eat that’s best for you

✔️Know the best snacks to help you stop craving and feeling out of control

Unmasking Your Binge Triggers

Have you ever thought about the emotions, experiences, and life situations that trigger your emotional eating? From boredom to stress, sadness to loneliness, or the ever-lingering anxiety, these triggers can lead us to seek comfort from food. A gruelling day at work often leaves us craving a reward for making it through, and that's where emotional eating can come in.

For many, food has become a coping mechanism, a temporary relief from life's challenges. However, it's a fleeting escape that rarely brings lasting comfort. More often than not, the aftermath leads to shame, guilt, and self-loathing - far from the reward you were seeking.

Think about it – when faced with a hard day, a packet of biscuits becomes the automatic response. But what if, beneath the surface, what you truly need is a way to de-stress, find stimulation, or simply get some rest?

This survival mechanism often turns into an ingrained habit, one that's developed from early childhood – were you ever given a treat to sooth you as a child? With the prevalence of dieting behaviours you are likely to have become disconnected from your body, making it all the more harder to know if you are eating for hunger or something quite different.

When working with clients, one of my goals is to guide them towards more helpful ways of feeling better by focusing on self-care and non-food-related rewards. Often, they do not feel worthy of doing positive things for themselves – is this the same for you?

It can be an empowering exercise to reassess your behaviours in a non-judgemental way – and helpful to make a note of them. Ask yourself – is this truly serving me? Is it time to explore what does?

Next week I'll delve into the steps you can take once you have identified your triggers

Do you long to have a happy relationship with food, but don’t know where to start? Download my FREE guide Breaking the Cycle - Your First Steps to Healing Your Relationship with FoodFood, to begin your journey

This invaluable resource will help you:

✔️Know when you’re really hungry and when you’re not

✔️Learn when to eat that’s best for you

✔️Know the best snacks to help you stop craving and feeling out of control